trades that really might have gotten lost in the mail

[theresanguyenn]

First of today i was just told off by a trader saying that they have really sent it for nearly 2 full weeks and thinks that i'm a scammer lying that i haven't received when i REALLY never received it what do i say to this trader since i have like no proof or any evidence that i never received it and it makes me really frustrated when traders wrongly accuse me of being a scammer and then the next following week the cards come and what do i do how do i explain that things like this happen and that this sight should really get some security that somehow proves that the other person actually never got the cards

[lickyloaf]

The cards very well could have been lost in the mail. I’m not sure if you’re familiar with all the cuts the US post office has been seeing lately, but right now the employees are possibly going to take a HUGE pay cut. And obviously the postal employees aren’t happy about that.
My mom works at a post office and she said that there is a large increase in the amount of people who are complaining that their letters have been lost (even ones with tracking!). So it could be possible that someone took your cards. Especially since the envelope feels like there could be a gift card in it (this is also a problem with non US postal services and why I personally don’t trade overseas).
So if you traded with someone in the US, this very well may be the case. But don’t rule out the other trader. If they have little or any refs they could possibly be a scammer.
How large of a trade was it and did the other user have a lot of refs?

[marigoldfroggy]

I've had international shipments take a month or more to make it to their destination before so if they've only been waiting two weeks and they're from the US, they haven't waited long enough.

Second, it is the responsibility of the sender to provide proof that they have sent their part, whether it is a tracking number, customs number, or something similar to that. If they can't provide any proof that they sent their part, there is nothing you can do but wait and see if their part arrives. Personally, I wouldn't submit a bad traded report for an international trader until maybe 6 weeks after they sent their part, and even then only if I really believe that they are being malicious.

Third, since you are often doing international trades, you need to be extra careful about who you trade with. You need to make sure that you trade with people who understand and are willing to wait the extra time that is sometimes necessary when shipping overseas. If someone is telling you off after two weeks for an international trade, that's probably someone you don't want to trade with again. There are fairly young children who use this website and they may not understand that it takes time for international shipments to make it to their destination.

Overall, try not to worry too much, you haven't done anything wrong!

[berrywings11]

I agree with Lickyloaf and Marigoldfroggy. They both make good points. It never occurred to me about trading cards feeling like gift cards and being stolen. I would recommend that for any trade agreement you make both you, and your trading partner must agree to have tracking. Tracking costs a mere $.90 cents for domestic mail in the US. And any time you send internationally, the post office requires you to fill out a customs form, so you can provide that number to your international trading partners. Finally, if you know that your local post office is slow in delivering or sending out items, mention that in your trade as well. Hope this helps in the future!